Yes, it’s all about choices in life, the sooner you realize it the better your life will get. Stop wishing and hoping for the things that you want in life and start making choices, believe in them, and act upon them! This is the correct approach towards achieving your goals.
New Years’ Resolutions have become a tradition. It is simply setting forth new goals you want to achieve in the New Year which normally go into effect on New Year''s Day. Then you expect to achieve them before the end of the year. They usually aim at improving one’s self or improving your living conditions i.e. quitting a bad habit, getting a more reliable car etc. Usually, when these needs are met then we start looking for ways of contributing to improve our external environment, becoming aware that our planet and the people who live in it who need our help to improve it. For instance, finding ways to help a person or a community in need and becoming greener (finding ways to protect the environment). Of course there are some people who are very conscious and noble, who know that there is no point in waiting to meet all our personal needs, which never end anyway, in order to help our planet and the people who live in it! Let’s not forget these generous people to which we should always extend our gratitude and try to make an example of them.
Here comes the shocker… I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions and neither should you! Why do we have to wait for an entire year to make an evaluation of our living conditions to see what is working for us and what is not and then do something about it?
There is never a better time other than Now. The past is gone and cannot be changed and the future is just an illusion. Any time of the year is a good time for change. Stop making excuses, and start making those changes.
Improve Now, Change Now!
But where do I start?
Start from here and now.
Print this article; it will serve as your guide, should you choose to!
We live in a multi-dimensional universe with multi-realities. The following are general instructions on how to achieve a goal in the physical dimension. The next newsletter is going to be on how to achieve instant gratification or manifestation of your goals in the spiritual dimension. If you ask me how I will benefit from that, since it’s only achieved in the spiritual dimension, then that tells me that you just got on the path and that you have a long way to go. For those who have been on the path for a long time already have realized and experienced our true nature, that we are spirits having a human experience, and not humans trying to have a spiritual experience. That is why when we have an instant gratification of our goal in the spiritual dimension it is felt at the deepest level of our being, it fulfill us and last forever. You also know that whatever happens to us, firstly manifest in our spiritual body and then to the physical body or external world.
One way of making our experiences as human’s more enjoyable and worthwhile is by setting goals that aim in making changes in our lives that uplift us and help us to evolve. Below is a formula that I put together over the years that seems to work very effectively, it’s a step-by-step approach that you can take to effectively set goals and achieve them.
You need to have a diary. Writing down your New Year resolutions or your goals has been proven to have more chances of being accomplished, rather than just stating them verbally. When you refer to your diary from time to time it helps to keep you organized, focused and committed.
Preferably, you should choose for a diary, a five subject note book or any notebook with at least 200 pages so you can divide it into different sections. A few pens of different colors will also come in handy. If you don’t have it at the moment just use some empty pages to write on and then transfer them to your notebook/diary so everything will be nicely tight and easy to find. Alternatively, you can create a new folder on your computer and name it “Diary”, then create separate word documents i.e. my goals for 2008 and put them in there.
You must decide what you want, and why you want it. You must be clear on that!
This is very crucial and I will expand more on that on the next newsletter when I will talk and give instructions regarding spiritual gratification.
Whatever you want, need and desire it becomes your goal. For every goal you write it down as a header on top of the page in your diary and allow four empty pages before writing the next one. If you are not sure, whether you want or need something, then do not write it down, you do not need it and it will get in the way of achieving what is really important for you.
In addition, I want you to write down all your dreams and fantasies, regardless if you judge them insignificant or impossible for whatever reason but again remember to write down why you need them or have them. This part will make more sense and it will become relevant when we start talking about spiritual gratification. You probably need to do a bit of soul searching about this bit! Just be honest with yourself, follow through, and I promise you, I will not let you down.
In addition to all these, you also need to take into consideration two crucial details.
Firstly,that large goals need to be broken down into smaller ones (sub-goals) and addressed them as individual goals. Secondly, if your goal is to remove something from your life i.e. cigarettes have in mind that you are creating a gap in your life. Your reactive mind is then responsible for filling that gap.
I am sure you are familiar with the following scenario. You decide to quit smoking but at the same time you noticed that you cannot stop from eating sweets! Your reactive mind has chosen to fill in that gap with sweets! Believe it or not your reactive mind chose wisely.
Why? Well let’s examine both cigarettes and sweets; both are something that you put in your mouth, are something that give you pleasure and finally they are both harmful to your body. There you go, what a perfect match! The remedy to this is for you to make a conscious choice of what it is that you want to replace it with and reinforce it by making it a goal.
Therefore, to sum up, you decide that you want to quit smoking because… (Take a pick from the dozens of reasons available to you!) Then you choose that whenever you have the urge to smoke you will take out your water bottle and take five sips of water. And as I mentioned before you reinforce that new habit by making it a goal, so you go to your diary and on top of the page you write as a goal “I want to become more hydrated because it will detoxify me and make me healthier).
You can list as many goals as you wish but do not start working on all of them at the same time. If you do that then there is a big chance you will get too stressed and quit on all of them. I recommend that you have three goals per quarter of a year. Start with the ones that you thing they are the most important to you.
Create a strategic plan for each of your goals. This is like a road map leading to the accomplishment of your goal. Proper planning keeps you focus and prevent poor results.
When is it a good time to start?
How about right now! Continue with writing the necessary steps that you need to take, under where you have written your goal at the top of the page in your diary. In order to come up with a good plan you always start by thinking positively and blocking out any form of negativity, as this will stop the creative process.
Then continue by collecting information about the matter at hand. How, who, why, when, what…
Also consider gathering some additional information from the internet, yellow pages, and most importantly your friends and acquaintances. Someone will know somebody who knows something about what you are looking for or who is an expert on the matter! Ask around for people who wanted or experienced the same thing that you want and what they did about it.
Take Purposeful Actions. Setting a goal and formulating a strategic plan without taking any action is merely wishful thinking. Your efforts reflect how much you want something. If you want something, reach out and grab it, don’t expect someone else to do the reaching for you.
The more actively involved you are in the processes of achieving your goal the more contentment you will feel at the end. Start by doing the easy and small steps because that is how you gain momentum to do the larger ones. Do the best you can each day, and take each day one at a time. Whenever you act upon the completion of a step you become and stronger and stronger…
Be aggressive. Some people cannot motivate themselves with just telling their selves to do something that they should be doing, especially when they have made several attempts in the past that failed. This in turn, will eventually lead to frustration.
It’s ok to be upset about it, you have every right to be, and is not wrong to use that feeling as your driving force. Attack; show your teeth show your power, nothing can beat you…
Don’t wait for the proper circumstances to arise in order to make your move, it just takes too long, create them!
The truth of the matter is that if you do not accomplish 75% of the work/steps necessary to achieve your goal within three weeks of writing that goal/New Year resolution you will then, most probably, lose your interest, forget about them, or just excuse yourself by saying that you will do it next year.
Is this the outcome that you want? Are you a quitter?
Exception to the rule is relationships, we cannot force someone to love us or do something that they don’t want. We need to understand this and accept it. Don’t be sad my friend, I know what it’s like, I think everybody has experienced a situation like this. More on this on the next newsletter.
Constantly monitor and assess the status of your goal. As you start getting new data and the different outcomes of your actions, a revision of your plan and its action steps usually is necessary to properly align them with the new situation. You must adapt constantly and quickly! Don’t be sad thinking that your initial plan has been spoiled, you can still use it concurrently; there can be many pathways that lead to the same destination!
Frequently referring and updating your diary will help you stay focus and on track.
Feel content and congratulate yourself no matter what the outcome is. It is extremely important that you recognize your own efforts and reward yourself. You have given your best shot and most importantly you did not act cowardly by choosing to stay in your comfort zone. If you haven’t reached the desired outcome;
* Don''t beat yourself up-Some things are beyond our control
* Other things are not meant to happen to us. You can find out the why by contemplating on the issue when you are in a relaxed state. Most times the answer is very simple which sometimes makes it difficult to accept it.
* Bad timing and synchronicity, try again sometime in the future when you are good and ready.
Contemplate on the outcome and the journey you undertook through the different steps and the knowledge you have gained, so that, you can grow from the experience.
Remember no goal in the world is worth it when you lose your Personal Integrity in the process!
Sometimes the goal itself will even change during the process. This is normal because our value system keeps changing as we go along on our daily lives and interactions. It is important, to justify your decision so it doesn’t feel to you that you have given up on that goal. Recognize and give credit to yourself for your success that you had up to that stage.
"The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled."
- Andrew Carnegie
"Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control."
- Richard Kline
With my very best wishes for everlasting love and happiness in your lives.
George C. Georgiou
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